Take the time to watch the poignant talk by a woman, who before her “breakdown/awakening,” resembled everything we’re taught we should be; the type A social worker, doctor, wife, mother and overall wonder woman! After her break “through,” she is on a journey that we all should like to be on… taking back her life!
The entire video is filled with provocative points but these really stood out to me. Revealing the characteristics all the vulnerable and wholehearted subjects had in common:
1) Courage to be imperfect.
2) Compassion to be kind to themselves first, then to others.
3) Connection as a result of authenticity (aka DEEP relationships)
These things instantly made me think of Ho’oponopono.
Defined as “to put to rights; to put in order or shape, correct, revise, adjust, amend, regulate, arrange, rectify, tidy up, make orderly or neat,” Ho’oponopono is the ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. To be clear… This is not about LOOKING tidy, neat or correct. We do not concern ourselves with fake or agenda-filled apologies. Our only agenda is to be FREE. TO RELEASE and BE RELEASED from the bondage of bitterness. This is about BEING and living in the spirit of forgiveness; making peace with loved ones (here or passed), with God (or the Gods) and perhaps most importantly, with ourselves.
Breathe that in for a minute.
The Road to Freedom…
Some of us have been through the kinds of things that most of the world would agree, are horrible. It may be hard to let go. But forgivess is an artform that requires practice. I have covered it quite a bit in this blog because I truly believe, forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. In Ho’oponopono, we sandwich forgiveness between the powers of LOVE and GRATITUDE and what we have built, is FREEDOM.
There are several ways to get to freedom but I love the simplicity of saying ‘I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.’ Repeating this mantra and letting it change you, is a Ho’oponopono process.
I think about reconciliation and forgiveness regularly. I’m not a person built to handle bitterness, so forgiveness is always a high priority for me. Would I define myself as a wholehearted person? I’d like to think so. But what I know for sure, is that I’m willing to try…
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I first published this post on Aug 7, 2011. I have added and ammended it because I think it’s a subject that deserves major attention.