I have adopted this practice in my home. At dinner or lunch, the kids and I will encourage one another with positive feedback. My daughter knows she has a smile that lights up the sky (from me) and that she’s a great a helper (from little brother). My son knows how awesome his heart is (from me ) and how much fun he is (from big sister).
My kids love each other and still fight like cat and dog. With siblings 16, 17 and 20 years my senior, I didn’t have this experience first hand but from what I understand of siblings so close in age, this sort of combat is natural. Time out for positive feedback really helps us get in touch with the good things we think and feel about each other and about ourselves.
Words are POWERFUL! As my kids have gotten older, conversations have gotten deeper. My son has said “Mom, you feed us everyday and the main ingredient is always love. I know because I feel it in my body.” My daughter has said to her brother “When you were at your sleepover, I didn’t have anyone to play with and I felt sad. It made me think of how much I love you…”
Two things inspired this post. One A tweet by @SusanPreston “#RelationshipTip: When was the last time that you told your partner how much they truly mean to you?” And Two, a Facebook group called, Keep them alive through pictures and memories, that takes time to remember the people we love that no longer occupy a physical body.
Tomorrow is not promised, so today I’m going to take some time out tor encourage some folks around me. Are there coworkers, clients, family members or partners that might benefit from knowing the special qualities you see in them?