There’s a whole lot of posting online about “doing you.” What EXACTLY does it mean to do you? Essentially, “doing you” means being authentic. It means being willing to risk not being accepted by some but choosing to pursue your own happiness. It means learning and growing from the choices we make, not blaming or making excuses for others or ourselves.
I wanted to share about what I have realized about life, love and the art of “Doing YOU.” I am the product of conditioning. I was trained to not be selfish and to put others first. Doing me has come at a price (mostly in the form of internal battles). At 46, I am just realizing that doing me… CAN be selfish… It CAN have a direct connection to someone else’s sadness or disappointment and that CAN be ok. Doing me has meant to do what makes me happy, peaceful, secure, successful (based on my own goals). It has NOT meant me mercilessly trampling on others. The art of doing me has allowed me to make choices and TRUST the consequences.
Doing you requires confidence. In order to DO YOU, you have to love, like and trust yourself. Here are some practical tips on learning to DO YOU.
- When it comes to speaking… here is some simple advice from Disney. Especially when it comes to self-talk, recognize that it is not ok to put yourself down. Also, keep in mind that DOING YOU means learning to accept that others are going to DO THEM. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all. Avoid lies, avoid arguing to prove a point… sometimes silence is truly golden.
- Since you’ve conditioned yourself to stop negative language, train yourself to say nice things. “I am worthy. I am beautiful. I am created in God’s image. I deserve good. I accept love and joy. I am love. I am a joy!”
- Try new things. Even if it means you are alone, in thought or action, go try something new. Read a new type of book, try on a completely new style of clothing, listen to a different kind of music. We are so conditioned that we sometimes become out of touch with what we like, have grown out of, or would like to explore.
- Meditate. This doesn’t have to be a big deal. Just get quiet enough to recognize your own thought patterns and if and how you want to change them. You can learn to take your meditation practice to achieve some fascinating results, but the most important thing is just to start somewhere.
- Forgive, yourself for past choices. Forgive others for your sanity and your ability to focus on achieving your own goals. More on this thought can be found HERE.
When I do me, I want to do it in the spirit of ONE LOVE. As I bless my own path, I consecutively am blessing all around me. So today, I hope you DO YOU and that you do it beautifully!
Here is another article I found helpful:
What It Means to Just Be Yourself and 3 Ways to Do It by Victoria Ayres