Note to self:
1) Rehearse for success.
2) Practice being your ideal self.
The Mental Rehearsal That Makes a Difference
Within every human being exists a propensity for greatness. The gifts may vary, and the greatness may live out in a vast array of alternatives —
Every individual essentially has a self-representation that is rehearsed and eventually actualized. The process begins by fantasizing at a very early age.
It is much more complicated than expressed here, but simply, it is also just this way. In fact, we all divide ourselves among four essential views of ourselves. These four faces include the following:
Our actual self Our ideal self Our ought-to-be self Our desired self
Most of us are aware of a so-called actual self. This is the self that has failed in ways we often will not share with others. This is the private self.
The actual self pales by comparison to our ideal self. The ideal self is often a construct built by our culture. This self would live a perfect life — without error and therefore without room for growth.
Then there is our ought-to-be self. This is the self full of all our learned “shoulds” and “oughts.” This self differs from our ideal self in the sense that many of the oughts are not ours — they are the oughts of our culture, our society — but deep down inside, they are not ours.
Finally, there is the desired self. Somewhere among all our other selves is a self that we believe we could be. This is the self we long for, especially when we are young and planning our future. It is also the source of much discontent in our later life if the desires have not been fulfilled — and they rarely, if ever, are.
The actual self is seldom the true actual self.
All of this is accomplished while we are still very young. In time we gain the wisdom and insight to become familiar with this maturation process and myriad other operations that function in our culture, our homes, etc., to produce socially acceptable membership and behavior. If, to borrow one of Shakespeare’s metaphors, life is a stage where we play our various parts, perhaps it’s time for a new rehearsal. Indeed, change, improvement, true self-actualization and so forth, all require that we create a new character. Using our power of imagination and consciously choosing the role-playing model we will rehearse will greatly assist and facilitate any change.
Therefore, it literally behooves all of us to watch those conversation exchanges that take place in our heads as well as every other aspect of our “rehearsing” behavior. To experience our best, we must practice/rehearse our best at all levels of our being. It works, but it can also be much easier said than done. Still, life’s cornucopia of joy awaits those willing to make the effort.