I have an amazing life. I am healthy, surrounded by love and able to do what I am passionate about on a daily basis. The truth is that life is not always easy. Like everyone else, I have challenges and have to face them. I’m grateful to know that I am not made of glass. I am strong and I’m smart. I’ve survived, thrived and am always moving adelante. People ask me how I can remain so positive. The answer is that I train for it. I train my mind, body, and spirit for success. There are a few tools that I have picked up along my journey to co-creating my life and affirmations are one of my favorites.
At 40+ years old, still being called out on shit like this is humbling…
But I love to share stuff like this. Because truthfully, owning our confidence and our sense of self, is a something many of us struggle with. Even if we know we’ve come such a long way, we can slip back into old patterns. For me, not accepting compliments is an alarm. When I slip back into deflecting compliments, I try to address it right away because it’s an indicator of negative self-talk. My negative self-talk is much more subtle these days but if I am not conscious, my insecurity will lurk around waiting for the opportunity to bash.
“Eewww. Don’t let him compliment you. He just wants something. He’s lying. He obviously feels bad for you. You look weak…” Even when I have achieved many of the things I have set out to accomplish, I still find thoughts like this floating around in my mind. And if I am not active in my positive dialogue, I can slip into old behaviors that incite what? More negative self-talk and behavior.
If you have EVER had to battle an AWFUL inner critic AND you need a good cry… Take the time to read this article in The New York Times by America Ferrera. She eloquently explains journey to overcome the negative self-talk that tried to destroy her self-esteem.
I want to make an offer to anyone who’s dealt with self-esteem issues, for any of the MANY reasons we do.
If you’re READY to start or continue your journey to self-esteem with a little help, I’m ready to be your tour guide.
If you are REALLY feeling this and you want to work with me personally email me, or find me on Facebook (put the word COACHING in the first line) and let’s talk about how I can help you find your way to loving yourself enough to live the life of your dreams.
I believe we are given opportunities to grow DAILY. I am a WIP (work in present) and YOU are beautiful!
The other day, a woman gave me a wonderful compliment about wearing short hair. Along with the compliment, she went on to bash herself, pointing out how hideous she thought she would be without her long hair. I was grateful for the compliment but also a bit heartbroken to hear her use that sort of negative self-talk.
Here are a few extra quotes I found on Instagram on the subject:Via @yogainspiration 👈😊 Life is an echo. What you send out, comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you give, you get. What you see in others, exists in you. Remember, life is an echo. It always gets back to you. So give goodness. – Zig Ziglar #energy #vibrations #frequency #lawofattraction #awakespiritual #bepositive #goodvibes
If you have told your story in a way that has not elevated your life, I have some good news. You can change that. You can tell your new story and really begin to live it.
I mention the acronym F.L.Y. in this blog quite a bit. It stands for First Love Yourself. The more love we have for ourselves, the more of service and closer we can be to others without feeling overwhelmed. I’m not talking about the feelings we can get from temporarily indulging our ego; I mean the ego surely serves a purpose but for deep, long term self-love I’m talking the most genuine, hopeful, fearless, forgiving and endless variety. In previous posts, I have mentioned the benefits of positive affirmations. This affirmation is quite special.
I Love Myself Affirmation by Louise Hay
Deep at the centre of my being,
there is an infinite well of love.
I now allow this love to flow to the surface.
It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness,
my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions
and returns to me mutliplied.
The more love I use and give, the more I have to give.
The supply is endless.
The use of love makes me feel good,
it is an expression of my inner joy.
I love myself;
therefore, I take loving care of my body.
I lovingly feed it nourishing foods and beverages,
I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly
responds to me with vibrant health and energy.
I love myself; therefore provide for myself
a comfortable home, one that fills
all my needs and is a pleasure to be in.
I fill the rooms with the vibration of love
so that all who enter, myself included,
will feel this love and be nourished by it.
I love myself; therefore I work at a job I truly enjoy
doing, one that uses my creative talents and abilities,
working with and for people I love and who love me,
and earning a good income.
I love myself; therefore, I behave and think in a loving
way to all people for I know that that which I give out
returns to me multiplied.
I only attract loving people in my world,
for they are a mirror of what I am.
I love myself; therefore I forgive and totally release
the past and all past experiences and I am free.
I love myself; therefore I live totally in the now,
experiencing each moment as good and knowing that
my future is bright and joyous and secure,
for I am a beloved child of the Universe
and the Universe lovingly takes care of me
now and forever more.
And so it is.
I created this affirmation audio and wanted to share it with you all… ENJOY.
Social Media Tip:
There’s an app called SoundCloud that you can use to record and share this or your own affirmations. Even if you don’t share with other people, using the cloud app will allow you to share among various devices. If you are an auditory and kinesthetic learner, you might really benefit if you listen to YOURSELF speak these beautiful words while you sleep, drive, bathe, walk, jog, cook…
If you’re on Pinterest or Facebook, you’re bound to run into a few of these. Word clouds are a fun way to show words in a visually stunning way.
To the right, is a word cloud made from my favorite words. It’s like a graphic affirmation. You can make one from quotes, songs, even make one that says welcome in different languages or happy birthday… The sky’s the limit!
I used a fun tool to make this. You can find it here: http://www.wordle.net/
There are several tools similar to the one I used, so if you don’t find the tools you want, just Google “Word Cloud” and you’ll see other sites that offer different features.
To the left, is the word cloud from this blog. The tool I used allows you to select a url and generates the cloud from the words on the page. Have fun creating.
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As always dear friends, peace and endless blessings.
On my phone, I have an app that has 101 Daily Thoughts to encourage prosperity, joy and higher consciousness. This is a screen shot from Day 4. Here is my list of 15 things I know not just about myself but YOU too…
- You are BEAUTIFUL inside/out.
- You are CREATIVE.
- You are STRONG.
- You are BRAVE.
- You are ABUNDANT.
- You are SMART
- You are COMPASSIONATE..
- You are THOUGHTFUL.
- You are TALENTED
- You are BLESSED.
- You are LOVED.
- You are SPECIAL.
- You are FUN.
- You are WORTHY.
- You are NOT ALONE
SOCIAL MEDIA TIP: Need help with AFFIRMATIONS? There’s an app for that! Those of us ridiculously addicted to our smart phones are app surfers and we’re not alone. Apple recently announced that more than 100 million applications have been downloaded from the company’s App Store in less than one year. You’d be surprised at the apps available to help you on your quest for holistic health, many are even free. Give the app store a peek for some inspiration. You can also go HERE to have 30 Days of Enlightened Messages emailed from the same inspired source.
Facebook makes changes that we don’t always like but this is a pretty cool feature. At anytime, you can go back into your own history and see the events, photos and status updates that highlighted the month or year. I chose the above status’ from 2010 and 2011. Nice to reflect on what I was thinking and how people responded.
1) In Nov 2010. My family and I took our traditional road trip to Vegas. On the way home, we drove by a wall vandalized with racial slurs. I found myself having to explain discrimination/intolerance and ISMs to my inquisitive nine year old daughter. People will randomly ask my children “what they are.” I’ve always told them they can choose to answer or not. I personally love sharing where I come from and who I am but I don’t need a box. We are ALL human.
2) I have at times, put pressure on myself by creating unrealistic, unnecessary paradigms of perfection. I’ve done this in many areas in my life and THIS day was breakthrough for me. My kids LOVE breakfast for dinner. Why my mind would conjure up the idea that breakfast for dinner was substandard mothering was amazing insight into the areas of my subconscious that still want me to be a slave. Whether I call the voice Divine consciousness or self awareness… Freedom is work. And it’s awesome.
3) My kids. Always a source of inspiration.
I have adopted this practice in my home. At dinner or lunch, the kids and I will encourage one another with positive feedback. My daughter knows she has a smile that lights up the sky (from me) and that she’s a great a helper (from little brother). My son knows how awesome his heart is (from me ) and how much fun he is (from big sister).
My kids love each other and still fight like cat and dog. With siblings 16, 17 and 20 years my senior, I didn’t have this experience first hand but from what I understand of siblings so close in age, this sort of combat is natural. Time out for positive feedback really helps us get in touch with the good things we think and feel about each other and about ourselves.
Words are POWERFUL! As my kids have gotten older, conversations have gotten deeper. My son has said “Mom, you feed us everyday and the main ingredient is always love. I know because I feel it in my body.” My daughter has said to her brother “When you were at your sleepover, I didn’t have anyone to play with and I felt sad. It made me think of how much I love you…”
Two things inspired this post. One A tweet by @SusanPreston “#RelationshipTip: When was the last time that you told your partner how much they truly mean to you?” And Two, a Facebook group called, Keep them alive through pictures and memories, that takes time to remember the people we love that no longer occupy a physical body.
Tomorrow is not promised, so today I’m going to take some time out tor encourage some folks around me. Are there coworkers, clients, family members or partners that might benefit from knowing the special qualities you see in them?
Lying in bed this morning, I began to think of the many beautiful things in my life. The fact of the matter is that while I hate clutter, I am a DAILY collector of beautiful things. I curate and collect sensual moments; you know the kind of things that pass but somehow magically show up in different ways.
Here’s just a sample of what’s on my list:
- All kinds of Kisses.
- The written, spoken or gestured words “I love you”
- Feeling beautiful without need for confirmation.
- Hugs that end but that you wish wouldn’t.
- The smell of dewy grass, eucalyptus or pine at sunrise.
- Sunsets over the ocean.
- The face of a child understanding something they previously felt it was impossible to learn.
- The feeling of a warm fire, radiator, blanket or body on a cold night.
- The reveal of a loved one when you haven’t seen them in ages.
- Clean water when you are thirsty.
- Blooming flowers.
- The taste of fruit heavy with ripeness but still on the tree.
- The gratitude of being able to offer hospitality and the warmth of being its recipient.
- The mist of warm water waves.
- Music that makes you cry, sing or dance.
- Holding hands.
- Tickles and back scratches
- Laughter that’s so deep, parts of the body start to hurt or tears begin to fall
- Looking around and seeing people of all colors, sizes and shapes and knowing that they are family.
- Conversations that inspire thought.
- Extraordinary quiet
- Being in the moment
My list goes on and on.
What’s on YOUR list?
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