I have an amazing life. I am healthy, surrounded by love and able to do what I am passionate about on a daily basis. The truth is that life is not always easy. Like everyone else, I have challenges and have to face them. I’m grateful to know that I am not made of glass. I am strong and I’m smart. I’ve survived, thrived and am always moving adelante. People ask me how I can remain so positive. The answer is that I train for it. I train my mind, body, and spirit for success. There are a few tools that I have picked up along my journey to co-creating my life and affirmations are one of my favorites.
At 40+ years old, still being called out on shit like this is humbling…
But I love to share stuff like this. Because truthfully, owning our confidence and our sense of self, is a something many of us struggle with. Even if we know we’ve come such a long way, we can slip back into old patterns. For me, not accepting compliments is an alarm. When I slip back into deflecting compliments, I try to address it right away because it’s an indicator of negative self-talk. My negative self-talk is much more subtle these days but if I am not conscious, my insecurity will lurk around waiting for the opportunity to bash.
“Eewww. Don’t let him compliment you. He just wants something. He’s lying. He obviously feels bad for you. You look weak…” Even when I have achieved many of the things I have set out to accomplish, I still find thoughts like this floating around in my mind. And if I am not active in my positive dialogue, I can slip into old behaviors that incite what? More negative self-talk and behavior.
If you have EVER had to battle an AWFUL inner critic AND you need a good cry… Take the time to read this article in The New York Times by America Ferrera. She eloquently explains journey to overcome the negative self-talk that tried to destroy her self-esteem.
I want to make an offer to anyone who’s dealt with self-esteem issues, for any of the MANY reasons we do.
If you’re READY to start or continue your journey to self-esteem with a little help, I’m ready to be your tour guide.
If you are REALLY feeling this and you want to work with me personally email me, or find me on Facebook (put the word COACHING in the first line) and let’s talk about how I can help you find your way to loving yourself enough to live the life of your dreams.
I believe we are given opportunities to grow DAILY. I am a WIP (work in present) and YOU are beautiful!
The other day, a woman gave me a wonderful compliment about wearing short hair. Along with the compliment, she went on to bash herself, pointing out how hideous she thought she would be without her long hair. I was grateful for the compliment but also a bit heartbroken to hear her use that sort of negative self-talk.
Here are a few extra quotes I found on Instagram on the subject:
Via @yogainspiration 👈😊 Life is an echo. What you send out, comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you give, you get. What you see in others, exists in you. Remember, life is an echo. It always gets back to you. So give goodness. – Zig Ziglar #energy #vibrations #frequency #lawofattraction #awakespiritual #bepositive #goodvibes
If you have told your story in a way that has not elevated your life, I have some good news. You can change that. You can tell your new story and really begin to live it.
I mention the acronym F.L.Y. in this blog quite a bit. It stands for First Love Yourself. The more love we have for ourselves, the more of service and closer we can be to others without feeling overwhelmed. I’m not talking about the feelings we can get from temporarily indulging our ego; I mean the ego surely serves a purpose but for deep, long term self-love I’m talking the most genuine, hopeful, fearless, forgiving and endless variety. In previous posts, I have mentioned the benefits of positive affirmations. This affirmation is quite special.
I Love Myself Affirmation by Louise Hay
Deep at the centre of my being,
there is an infinite well of love.
I now allow this love to flow to the surface.
It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness,
my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions
and returns to me mutliplied.
The more love I use and give, the more I have to give.
The supply is endless.
The use of love makes me feel good,
it is an expression of my inner joy.
I love myself;
therefore, I take loving care of my body.
I lovingly feed it nourishing foods and beverages,
I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly
responds to me with vibrant health and energy.
I love myself; therefore provide for myself
a comfortable home, one that fills
all my needs and is a pleasure to be in.
I fill the rooms with the vibration of love
so that all who enter, myself included,
will feel this love and be nourished by it.
I love myself; therefore I work at a job I truly enjoy
doing, one that uses my creative talents and abilities,
working with and for people I love and who love me,
and earning a good income.
I love myself; therefore, I behave and think in a loving
way to all people for I know that that which I give out
returns to me multiplied.
I only attract loving people in my world,
for they are a mirror of what I am.
I love myself; therefore I forgive and totally release
the past and all past experiences and I am free.
I love myself; therefore I live totally in the now,
experiencing each moment as good and knowing that
my future is bright and joyous and secure,
for I am a beloved child of the Universe
and the Universe lovingly takes care of me
now and forever more.
And so it is.
I created this affirmation audio and wanted to share it with you all… ENJOY.
Social Media Tip:
There’s an app called SoundCloud that you can use to record and share this or your own affirmations. Even if you don’t share with other people, using the cloud app will allow you to share among various devices. If you are an auditory and kinesthetic learner, you might really benefit if you listen to YOURSELF speak these beautiful words while you sleep, drive, bathe, walk, jog, cook…
If you’re on Pinterest or Facebook, you’re bound to run into a few of these. Word clouds are a fun way to show words in a visually stunning way.
To the right, is a word cloud made from my favorite words. It’s like a graphic affirmation. You can make one from quotes, songs, even make one that says welcome in different languages or happy birthday… The sky’s the limit!
I used a fun tool to make this. You can find it here: http://www.wordle.net/
There are several tools similar to the one I used, so if you don’t find the tools you want, just Google “Word Cloud” and you’ll see other sites that offer different features.
To the left, is the word cloud from this blog. The tool I used allows you to select a url and generates the cloud from the words on the page. Have fun creating.
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As always dear friends, peace and endless blessings.